Dear All,
I am 57 year old son having given up work, London life, to look after my mum who has now Late Stage Dementia.
I looked after her for two years before reluctantly gi ibg her up to a care home.
It was a mistake. It was a poor care home. I have been fighting the council to get her moved but all the issues - mum defecating in the care home's lounge three times, being allowed to sit there naked two mornings before being discovered, being allowed to walk to the far dining toom naked, sobbing and sodden with urine and feaces in the mornings and left unattended, four unwitnessed falls in three weeks (each resulting in a trip to A and E) and a chest infection resulting in a wars stay, a trip back to the care home for a say before being readmitted for a month for sepsis.
Each time I have complained the answer has been 'Well, she's not going to get better' so more of these incidents will take place.
What about her privacy? Her dignity? Her Quality of Life?
The care home, since I have complained, have tried to make my time difficult - restricting my hours, my meetings, etc.i was sectioned for stress
While Mum was in hospital was in hospital I was asked by Physical Therapy to help them move mum from the bed to a chair to try and encourage her to walk. I did. Mum was sat in the chair but wanted to go back to the bed. I was alone. I should have told her no and waited for help. I tried to move her myself. She Def ate on the floor. Help finally arrived. I was so distressed I left immediately.
I have by the nurse been the subject of a Safeguarding.
This will never happen again. I was asked to help. I trued to help.
What can they do? Deprive me of seeing Mum? Do I get a solicitor? I am only trying my best and have felt hammered down by defeat after defeat. I only want the best for Mum and resent the implication otherwise. I was unwise and feel great regret but how do I over one this?
I am 57 year old son having given up work, London life, to look after my mum who has now Late Stage Dementia.
I looked after her for two years before reluctantly gi ibg her up to a care home.
It was a mistake. It was a poor care home. I have been fighting the council to get her moved but all the issues - mum defecating in the care home's lounge three times, being allowed to sit there naked two mornings before being discovered, being allowed to walk to the far dining toom naked, sobbing and sodden with urine and feaces in the mornings and left unattended, four unwitnessed falls in three weeks (each resulting in a trip to A and E) and a chest infection resulting in a wars stay, a trip back to the care home for a say before being readmitted for a month for sepsis.
Each time I have complained the answer has been 'Well, she's not going to get better' so more of these incidents will take place.
What about her privacy? Her dignity? Her Quality of Life?
The care home, since I have complained, have tried to make my time difficult - restricting my hours, my meetings, etc.i was sectioned for stress
While Mum was in hospital was in hospital I was asked by Physical Therapy to help them move mum from the bed to a chair to try and encourage her to walk. I did. Mum was sat in the chair but wanted to go back to the bed. I was alone. I should have told her no and waited for help. I tried to move her myself. She Def ate on the floor. Help finally arrived. I was so distressed I left immediately.
I have by the nurse been the subject of a Safeguarding.
This will never happen again. I was asked to help. I trued to help.
What can they do? Deprive me of seeing Mum? Do I get a solicitor? I am only trying my best and have felt hammered down by defeat after defeat. I only want the best for Mum and resent the implication otherwise. I was unwise and feel great regret but how do I over one this?
