Since I joined TP (over 8 years ago now) my profile relates to my dad's battle with dementia, and my signature describes me as a 'former carer'. Now it seems my profile should also refer to my mum, and I should remove the word 'former' from my signature. I have been concerned about my mum's memory and behaviour for some time and have wavered between paranoia and denial. Recently however (last 2 months I would say) we have experienced some classic behaviours which tell me, sadly, this is dementia. Again. It's a very different journey from that with my dad. I don't know if that's because I know far more about dementia this time around, because my relationship with my mum is a different one to that with my dad, or simply because dementia affects everyone differently. I suspect it's a combination of all three. One of the main differences is that mum lives alone in the old family house which is far too big for her and where she is simply not safe. At least my dad had my mum with him most of the time. Following a series of crises the GP has secured a referral to the memory clinic next week, and mum has agreed that she will try out a local care home for some respite from next week whilst my sister is away on holiday. Just so sad that it seems we will be going down this road again.