What a week.
... mum is really struggling. Very low, unable to 'climb out of the hole she's in'. I am remaining firm with the days I don't visit her as I know from experience she will still be unhappy if I am there - but I'll be unhappy too.
...dad deteriorating - had a fall a couple of days ago and cut his head. His carer said he had a few tears afterwards (I've NEVER seen him cry) and he was trying to tell her something but he can no longer form words at all. She said she sat with him and patted his hand and reassured him, and she said he soon stopped. It broke my heart.
He was happy to see us today though. I was helping him 'read' the paper and he became fascinated by my necklace - a glittery silver heart on a chain - so much so that when I moved away he wouldn't let it go - so I gave it to him. He kept turning it over and over in his hands as if he'd never seen jewellery before. That made me cry as well.
One of my lovely colleagues at work lost her husband earlier in the week - she has had a terribly difficult life and suffers from ME ... I don't know how she's going to manage (she will, though) more tears.
I hope that mum can start to see something positive in her life soon - when I was going home today I was dropping her at the local shops. She popped over to briefly chat with the other 'ladies' in the complex where she lives and one of them asked her if she was OK. She said 'no' and told them how she was feeling, and that her house had just been sold and it was all very difficult. She had a bit of a cry. I was so glad to hear her tell someone else, apart from me, and one of the ladies got up and gave her a great big hug. I think she could have some really good friends there is only she'd open up a bit - maybe this will start it?
Anyway. Tough week for me. I'm sure many on here have had much, much worse! Thank goodness my mascara doesn't run or I'd have spent all week looking like a panda!
... mum is really struggling. Very low, unable to 'climb out of the hole she's in'. I am remaining firm with the days I don't visit her as I know from experience she will still be unhappy if I am there - but I'll be unhappy too.
...dad deteriorating - had a fall a couple of days ago and cut his head. His carer said he had a few tears afterwards (I've NEVER seen him cry) and he was trying to tell her something but he can no longer form words at all. She said she sat with him and patted his hand and reassured him, and she said he soon stopped. It broke my heart.
He was happy to see us today though. I was helping him 'read' the paper and he became fascinated by my necklace - a glittery silver heart on a chain - so much so that when I moved away he wouldn't let it go - so I gave it to him. He kept turning it over and over in his hands as if he'd never seen jewellery before. That made me cry as well.
One of my lovely colleagues at work lost her husband earlier in the week - she has had a terribly difficult life and suffers from ME ... I don't know how she's going to manage (she will, though) more tears.
I hope that mum can start to see something positive in her life soon - when I was going home today I was dropping her at the local shops. She popped over to briefly chat with the other 'ladies' in the complex where she lives and one of them asked her if she was OK. She said 'no' and told them how she was feeling, and that her house had just been sold and it was all very difficult. She had a bit of a cry. I was so glad to hear her tell someone else, apart from me, and one of the ladies got up and gave her a great big hug. I think she could have some really good friends there is only she'd open up a bit - maybe this will start it?
Anyway. Tough week for me. I'm sure many on here have had much, much worse! Thank goodness my mascara doesn't run or I'd have spent all week looking like a panda!
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