1. Expert Q&A: Benefits - Weds 23 October, 3-4pm

    Our next expert Q&A will be on the topic of benefits. It will be hosted by Lauren from our Knowledge Services team. She'll be answering your questions on Wednesday 23 October between 3-4pm.

    You can either post your question >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll be happy to ask them on your behalf.

  1. lisa1970

    lisa1970 Registered User

    Jul 11, 2015
    6
    I joined the forum a few weeks ago. I was a carer for my mother in law who was in the early to middle stages of Alzheimer's.
    I took her to her post diagnostic support group a week Tuesday gone. Physically she was in great health and enjoyed the class immensely. Half way through the class she took a amassive stroke. Right in front of me, with no warning. She died the next day in hospital. I am totally heartbroken and still in a state of shock. I can however find comfort in the fact that this dreadful disease did not get the better of her. Her worst fear was needing care and not recognising her loved ones. She is now back with the husband that she lost 34 yrs ago today.
     
  2. nellbelles

    nellbelles Volunteer Host

    Nov 6, 2008
    8,409
    leicester
    I am sorry to read your sad news, my sincere condolences. But I understand your comments, she was living her life to the full and I hope you can take comfort from that.
     
  3. 99purdy

    99purdy Registered User

    Oct 31, 2014
    129
    So sorry for your loss and deepest condolences to you and your family. X
     
  4. Lindy50

    Lindy50 Registered User

    Dec 11, 2013
    5,302
    Cotswolds
    Lisa, I am so sorry to read your sad news. It must have been dreadful for you to actually witness your mother in law's stroke, and it's only natural that you still feel in shock from it.

    The only blessing being, as you say, that at least she did not suffer a slow deterioration.

    I send you my sincere condolences and wish you strength and comfort as you grieve.

    (((Hugs)))

    Lindy xx
     
  5. Tin

    Tin Registered User

    May 18, 2014
    4,826
    UK
    So sorry Lisa.
     
  6. nannylondon

    nannylondon Registered User

    Apr 7, 2014
    2,476
    London
    Sorry for your loss my deepest sympathies to you and your family x
     
  7. jenniferpa

    jenniferpa Volunteer Moderator

    Jun 27, 2006
    39,439
    Oh Lisa, that's awful.

    But I think you have the right take on this, as traumatic as it must have been for her, you and everyone witnessing this.

    Please don't hesitate to post again should you need support at this very sad time.
     
  8. jan.s

    jan.s Registered User

    Sep 20, 2011
    7,352
    What a shock for you, but, as you say, a blessing for her.

    Thinking of you.
     
  9. Witzend

    Witzend Registered User

    Aug 29, 2007
    4,296
    SW London
    What a cruel shock for you, I am so sorry. But having seen my poor mother go on and on with this vile disease, to end in such a pitiful state at 97, I can only think it was a blessing for your MIL So terribly hard for those who loved her, though.
     
  10. Caroleca

    Caroleca Registered User

    Jan 11, 2014
    332
    Ontario canada
    Feel so terribly sad for you and you family. My deepest condolences.
     
  11. LYN T

    LYN T Registered User

    Aug 30, 2012
    6,968
    Brixham Devon
    #11 LYN T, Aug 10, 2015
    Last edited: Aug 10, 2015
    Lisa, what a horrible shock for you-I'm very sorry that you had to witness your MIL having a stroke-but glad that she went when she did. As you say she missed the long decline but very, very sad nonetheless.

    Love

    Lyn T XX
     
  12. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

    Feb 27, 2015
    10,224
    Merseyside
    What an awful shock for you. My thoughts are with you xx
     
  13. Pickles53

    Pickles53 Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    2,482
    Radcliffe on Trent
    Such a dreadful shock for you. Sending my deepest sympathy to you and all your family.
     
  14. Spamar

    Spamar Registered User

    Oct 5, 2013
    6,976
    Suffolk
    It's a shock. My mother died the same way. She, and one of her sisters who was staying with her, walked up to the postbox, where she had a stroke. She died there.
    My thoughts are with you at this time.
     
  15. patsy56

    patsy56 Registered User

    Jan 14, 2015
    840
    Fife Scotland
    what a shock, but I am sorry for your loss, please pass on my condolences to your family.
     
  16. Canadian Joanne

    Canadian Joanne Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 8, 2005
    16,112
    Toronto, Canada
    I'm so sorry to hear your shocking news but I am glad you are able to find comfort in all of this. At least it was very quick. My father died unexpectedly and although it was the most horrible shock, at least we were saved from watching him decline over 15 years, as we have done so far with my mother.

    My condolences to you and your family.
     
  17. Lilac Blossom

    Lilac Blossom Registered User

    Oct 6, 2014
    520
    Scotland
    Just adding my condolences on the death of your MIL - such a shock but also a blessing to go so suddenly. xx
     
  18. Soobee

    Soobee Registered User

    Aug 22, 2009
    2,734
    South
    It is sad news - my condolences to you.
     
  19. bronwyn

    bronwyn Registered User

    Oct 5, 2013
    3
    mum

    Sorry to hear the news, at keast peace now. Mum passed away last week and I feel such relief that she
    is now out of it.
     
  20. CollegeGirl

    CollegeGirl Registered User

    Jan 19, 2011
    9,534
    North East England
    Oh my god, what a shock for you, no wonder you are reeling. I'm so sorry, and yet glad that you find some comfort in the fact that the illness did not get her. I would feel the same , I think. Wishing you peace and strength for the days to come.
     

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