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Sad news

Marcelle123

Registered User
Nov 9, 2015
4,547
Yorkshire
So sorry to read about the loss of your lovely wife at such a young age.
Wishing you solace in that you cared for her so much - my condolences to you and your family. xx
 

Bunpoots

Volunteer Host
Apr 1, 2016
3,824
Nottinghamshire
My sincere condolences to you @Philbo .

I’ve always admired the way you managed to carve out a life for yourself and your wife which accommodated that unwelcome guest, dementia. Linda is a peace now and I hope you can find peace for yourself in time.
 

MaNaAk

Registered User
Jun 19, 2016
1,589
Essex
It is with a heavy heart that I announce that my beautiful wife Linda passed away yesterday afternoon, after a 6 year dementia journey.

If you've read my numerous posts/contributions, you may recall that back in August, after getting a UTI whilst in respite for 2 weeks, she went from hospital to full time care in a nursing home in late September.

A few weeks before Christmas, she had another UTI (spending 3 days in hospital again) which really seemed to knock her down. They started having a job to get her to take food (not opening her mouth, then probs swallowing).

Last Monday, they called the GP as her heart rate dropped and he prescribed end of life meds. She didn't need these until Friday but we had to watch her deteriorate further until yesterday, her breathing had become rapid and shallow. She kept fighting, bless her, until mid afternoon and it was very harrowing for me and the family to witness, but we were all glad we were with her.

She is at peace now - its just so unfair that she had to go through any of this at such a young age (69 a couple of weeks ago). This dreadful disease has robbed us both of our retirement years we had planned and looked forward to.

I am both relieved and heartbroken.

RIP my lovely.

Many thanks to TP and members for being there these last 6 years.
Dear Philbo,

I'm so sorry. I've read your posts many times. You did your best and you need to think that she is free of dementia.

Hugs

MaNaAk
 

BSN

Registered User
Oct 1, 2017
19
It is with a heavy heart that I announce that my beautiful wife Linda passed away yesterday afternoon, after a 6 year dementia journey.

If you've read my numerous posts/contributions, you may recall that back in August, after getting a UTI whilst in respite for 2 weeks, she went from hospital to full time care in a nursing home in late September.

A few weeks before Christmas, she had another UTI (spending 3 days in hospital again) which really seemed to knock her down. They started having a job to get her to take food (not opening her mouth, then probs swallowing).

Last Monday, they called the GP as her heart rate dropped and he prescribed end of life meds. She didn't need these until Friday but we had to watch her deteriorate further until yesterday, her breathing had become rapid and shallow. She kept fighting, bless her, until mid afternoon and it was very harrowing for me and the family to witness, but we were all glad we were with her.

She is at peace now - its just so unfair that she had to go through any of this at such a young age (69 a couple of weeks ago). This dreadful disease has robbed us both of our retirement years we had planned and looked forward to.

I am both relieved and heartbroken.

RIP my lovely.

Many thanks to TP and members for being there these last 6 years.
I am so sorry to hear of your wife’s passing. You and your family are in my thoughts. take care, Bx
 

CWR

Registered User
Mar 17, 2019
114
(((((((((Hugs, Philbo)))))))))
It is with a heavy heart that I announce that my beautiful wife Linda passed away yesterday afternoon, after a 6 year dementia journey.

If you've read my numerous posts/contributions, you may recall that back in August, after getting a UTI whilst in respite for 2 weeks, she went from hospital to full time care in a nursing home in late September.

A few weeks before Christmas, she had another UTI (spending 3 days in hospital again) which really seemed to knock her down. They started having a job to get her to take food (not opening her mouth, then probs swallowing).

Last Monday, they called the GP as her heart rate dropped and he prescribed end of life meds. She didn't need these until Friday but we had to watch her deteriorate further until yesterday, her breathing had become rapid and shallow. She kept fighting, bless her, until mid afternoon and it was very harrowing for me and the family to witness, but we were all glad we were with her.

She is at peace now - its just so unfair that she had to go through any of this at such a young age (69 a couple of weeks ago). This dreadful disease has robbed us both of our retirement years we had planned and looked forward to.

I am both relieved and heartbroken.

RIP my lovely.

Many thanks to TP and members for being there these last 6 years.
I hope it helps you to know how many of us have gone through this, and that you have friends here, ready to give support and advice.You will go through a whole mix of emotions,
It is with a heavy heart that I announce that my beautiful wife Linda passed away yesterday afternoon, after a 6 year dementia journey.

If you've read my numerous posts/contributions, you may recall that back in August, after getting a UTI whilst in respite for 2 weeks, she went from hospital to full time care in a nursing home in late September.

A few weeks before Christmas, she had another UTI (spending 3 days in hospital again) which really seemed to knock her down. They started having a job to get her to take food (not opening her mouth, then probs swallowing).

Last Monday, they called the GP as her heart rate dropped and he prescribed end of life meds. She didn't need these until Friday but we had to watch her deteriorate further until yesterday, her breathing had become rapid and shallow. She kept fighting, bless her, until mid afternoon and it was very harrowing for me and the family to witness, but we were all glad we were with her.

She is at peace now - its just so unfair that she had to go through any of this at such a young age (69 a couple of weeks ago). This dreadful disease has robbed us both of our retirement years we had planned and looked forward to.

I am both relieved and heartbroken.

RIP my lovely.

Many thanks to TP and members for being there these last 6 years.
I am sorry to hear this. 69 is a terribly young age to succumb to this dreadful disease.Feel free to vent your emotions on here. It has helped me doing so.
 

Grannie G

Volunteer Moderator
Apr 3, 2006
70,410
Kent
I`m so sorry to read your news @Philbo.

When I see a new title like this from a long standing member my heart misses a beat. I do hope you`ll stay with DTP for support for as long as you need it.
 

LynneMcV

Volunteer Moderator
May 9, 2012
3,751
south-east London
I am so sorry for your news @Philbo - you gave such loving care throughout and, as tough as those last days can be, I am glad that you were able to be with your lovely wife until the end. My sincere condolences to you and your family.
 

northumbrian_k

Registered User
Mar 2, 2017
929
Newcastle
I am sorry to hear your sad news @Philbo. You have been a source of good advice and comfort to many on Dementia Talking Point and we remain here to help you where we can. With all best wishes at this hard time.
 

Wakky

Registered User
Jan 5, 2020
31
It is with a heavy heart that I announce that my beautiful wife Linda passed away yesterday afternoon, after a 6 year dementia journey.

If you've read my numerous posts/contributions, you may recall that back in August, after getting a UTI whilst in respite for 2 weeks, she went from hospital to full time care in a nursing home in late September.

A few weeks before Christmas, she had another UTI (spending 3 days in hospital again) which really seemed to knock her down. They started having a job to get her to take food (not opening her mouth, then probs swallowing).

Last Monday, they called the GP as her heart rate dropped and he prescribed end of life meds. She didn't need these until Friday but we had to watch her deteriorate further until yesterday, her breathing had become rapid and shallow. She kept fighting, bless her, until mid afternoon and it was very harrowing for me and the family to witness, but we were all glad we were with her.

She is at peace now - its just so unfair that she had to go through any of this at such a young age (69 a couple of weeks ago). This dreadful disease has robbed us both of our retirement years we had planned and looked forward to.

I am both relieved and heartbroken.

RIP my lovely.

Many thanks to TP and members for being there these last 6 years.
I am new here, but my heart aches for you. Condolences to you and your family
 

Philbo

Registered User
Feb 28, 2017
754
Kent
A very quick thank you for all your kind and thoughtful responses so far. It really does mean a lot.

Phil
 

Locket Love

Registered User
Sep 17, 2019
15
Thinking of you @Philbo at this sad time. It's such a heartbreaking condition. I lost my Mum on 3rd January. She was only 70. Her funeral is this week. I still can't believe she's gone. Free from pain and torment of this hideous illness. Sending you strength. Take some time for yourself.