I posted this earlier this morning but thanks to grannie G realised that I had not put it in the main forum so I do apologise for repeating this narrative.
I have been following the fourm for some time now but this is the first time I have felt able to join in discussions. Yesterday was my birthday and for the first time since mum was diagnosed I realised she not only did not realise but she was not sure who I actually was. Just writing this is so upsetting.
I am the only daughter of a mum diagnosed with mixed vascular dementia and alzheimer's. Her diagnosis came a couple of years ago following a period of increasing memory loss. She lives independently, just down the road from my me and my family (husband and three girls) and copes pretty well. We have always had a close relationship and when my dad died many years ago now mum moved down from Cambridgeshire to be near us.
Whilst I am a heathcare progessional myself I find this does not help when dealing with this awful disease.
Reading how supportive everyone is on the forum and the wealth of knowledge and experience people have is really helpful. I have never participated in any online forum before so feel a little apprehensive.
Yesterday was a turning point in many ways; I know from many of you that there are always good and bad days, in the beginning I would make plans for mum (carers, residential etc) only to realise that having one bad day did not mean that every day would be like that. Mum is a fit 83yr old, she still rides her bike (better than me!) and is very active. However her memory is worsening and I would appreciate anyone's help on how to deal with a couple of challenging things;
Mum is buying too much food and storing it inappropriately i.e. pizza (which she never used to eat) in the cupboard, frozen chips in the fridge buying loads of fresh pies ( I counted 8 yesterday). My daughters and I have been able to clear out her fridge regularly but I am not sure what she is eating and am worried that she is at risk of becoming ill. Secondly whilst not so much of a risk but a change in her behaviour is how she dresses herself. She was always well dressed and enjoyed shopping but recently her clothes are not clean and she is wearing mismatched things which I know she would hate.
My problem is she is very proud; she has never acknowledged that she had memory problems and she is very clever at covering up for mistakes etc. How can I address the food and clothing issues without completely upsetting her?
I am sorry for the long message I have found it hard to keep it short!
I have been following the fourm for some time now but this is the first time I have felt able to join in discussions. Yesterday was my birthday and for the first time since mum was diagnosed I realised she not only did not realise but she was not sure who I actually was. Just writing this is so upsetting.
I am the only daughter of a mum diagnosed with mixed vascular dementia and alzheimer's. Her diagnosis came a couple of years ago following a period of increasing memory loss. She lives independently, just down the road from my me and my family (husband and three girls) and copes pretty well. We have always had a close relationship and when my dad died many years ago now mum moved down from Cambridgeshire to be near us.
Whilst I am a heathcare progessional myself I find this does not help when dealing with this awful disease.
Reading how supportive everyone is on the forum and the wealth of knowledge and experience people have is really helpful. I have never participated in any online forum before so feel a little apprehensive.
Yesterday was a turning point in many ways; I know from many of you that there are always good and bad days, in the beginning I would make plans for mum (carers, residential etc) only to realise that having one bad day did not mean that every day would be like that. Mum is a fit 83yr old, she still rides her bike (better than me!) and is very active. However her memory is worsening and I would appreciate anyone's help on how to deal with a couple of challenging things;
Mum is buying too much food and storing it inappropriately i.e. pizza (which she never used to eat) in the cupboard, frozen chips in the fridge buying loads of fresh pies ( I counted 8 yesterday). My daughters and I have been able to clear out her fridge regularly but I am not sure what she is eating and am worried that she is at risk of becoming ill. Secondly whilst not so much of a risk but a change in her behaviour is how she dresses herself. She was always well dressed and enjoyed shopping but recently her clothes are not clean and she is wearing mismatched things which I know she would hate.
My problem is she is very proud; she has never acknowledged that she had memory problems and she is very clever at covering up for mistakes etc. How can I address the food and clothing issues without completely upsetting her?
I am sorry for the long message I have found it hard to keep it short!