Just thought I'd share an experience with you all. I care for mum who lives with us. She has Vas D. If you've read my threads before you'll know It hasn't been easy! This week I took her to her own estranged sister's funeral. She also had dementia, and lived in a nursing home. It was the saddest moment of my life when her only son didn't turn up to her funeral. Mum and I were in shock when the service started without her closest family. Not only that, but no leaflets were arranged, or flowers or indeed any arrangements. Her friends at the chapel had created a decent send off for her. God only knows what sad events happened to lead up to this situation. All I know is that every funeral I go to from now on, I shall be extremely glad, (if not happy!) to see people grieving and upset. When I recounted the event to a worker at the alzheimers society, she said it was so important that I recognise need for help as a carer, and ask for it so that we don't reach a terrible end such as that of my poor, dear aunty xxx