Hi everyone. I've not been online as my dads had a bad week or 2, sadly. He appeared to have another big TIA on Sunday but Monday a full blown stroke. He's right sided weakness but can still swallow and occasionally tries to speak. He's now in one of those huge recliner chairs awaiting a formal occ therapy assessment. There's not been a glimmer of recognition in his face for us for a while now, although he lights up when a carer is around. I find this comforting as I feel they give him wonderful care and tell myself he'd not be so happy to see them if they weren't. It's only a few weeks since the psych team stopped memantine as the vascular dementia has overtaken the Alzheimer's so rapidly and it's all happening so fast now. I've shed buckets of tears, and feel I'm ready now for dads passing. I know hand on heart I couldn't have done another thing for him, he's had great care from us and his carers, more love and affection in 8 years than he's ever wanted in the previous 64. I know you guys will understand when I say I'd rather lose him that watch him decline further, it's so heartbreaking isn't it? My oldest friends dad passed away last week at the same age and was a vd sufferer too. We've travelled the same journey with our dads, even down to them deteriorating suddenly on the same weekend in October. His funeral was heart wrenching but uplifting and he's now resting peacefully, having slipped away with his wife at his side. What more can you wish for?