What I find really difficult is the rollercoaster of emotions, not even day to day but hour to hour. I wake up fine, then in the afternoon I get teary, then I'm ok, or vice versa. There's no logic to it.
Which makes it really hard to know what to do about work. I won't know if I'm ready or not till I go back, but I dont want to go back and find myself teary. Conversely, I don't want to keep postponing it. I find it really confusing; at one stage I can feel that I'm doing ok, then I remember something mum said and that's me. I have had 2 close family bereavements before, but although both were close in terms of their relationship to me ( father, aunt), I was not emotionally close to either, so this is new to me. I don't know if it would be a good idea to see about counselling at this stage or if it's too early.
Also, as well as the emotional rollercoaster, I find myself in a limbo as regards my future. Having been mum's carer for several years, I miss that role, even tho' I found it stressful. To be honest, part of me is quite at a loss. I have lost one role, and not really settled into any other one yet.
Sorry for rambling on, but I find this whole scenario very unsettling. I am not as distraught as I thought I would be, but I do feel adrift. What advice would anyone give? Thanks in advance. I know that people here will understand the mixed emotions that I have now, relief that I dont have to worry about mum, missing her at the same time,and those emotions jumbling around in my head at the same time.
Which makes it really hard to know what to do about work. I won't know if I'm ready or not till I go back, but I dont want to go back and find myself teary. Conversely, I don't want to keep postponing it. I find it really confusing; at one stage I can feel that I'm doing ok, then I remember something mum said and that's me. I have had 2 close family bereavements before, but although both were close in terms of their relationship to me ( father, aunt), I was not emotionally close to either, so this is new to me. I don't know if it would be a good idea to see about counselling at this stage or if it's too early.
Also, as well as the emotional rollercoaster, I find myself in a limbo as regards my future. Having been mum's carer for several years, I miss that role, even tho' I found it stressful. To be honest, part of me is quite at a loss. I have lost one role, and not really settled into any other one yet.
Sorry for rambling on, but I find this whole scenario very unsettling. I am not as distraught as I thought I would be, but I do feel adrift. What advice would anyone give? Thanks in advance. I know that people here will understand the mixed emotions that I have now, relief that I dont have to worry about mum, missing her at the same time,and those emotions jumbling around in my head at the same time.