rogibob
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Hello and welcome to Talking Point.
You will see I have copied your Blog and included it in your first post.
I am not sure what to advise for you except that it is important to put your own family as a priority whilst at the same time ensuring that your Mother is well cared for. I would suggest you talk this through with a Social Worker or one of the Mental Health team (such as a CPN). They will understand the sort of care your Mother needs and hopefully advise what is most suitable.
It seems to me that a care home would be ok - although you would need advice about the type - residential, nursing or dementia specialist (the Mental Health team should advise on this). If you were to move your Mother away from her own county then it is important to make sure the finances are sorted as a new county would not necessarily fund her.
I am sure others will be along soon with their own thoughts.
Best wishes
You will see I have copied your Blog and included it in your first post.
I am not sure what to advise for you except that it is important to put your own family as a priority whilst at the same time ensuring that your Mother is well cared for. I would suggest you talk this through with a Social Worker or one of the Mental Health team (such as a CPN). They will understand the sort of care your Mother needs and hopefully advise what is most suitable.
It seems to me that a care home would be ok - although you would need advice about the type - residential, nursing or dementia specialist (the Mental Health team should advise on this). If you were to move your Mother away from her own county then it is important to make sure the finances are sorted as a new county would not necessarily fund her.
I am sure others will be along soon with their own thoughts.
Best wishes
Have I got this right.
Your daughter and grandchildren are in London.
Your friends are in London.
Your Mum is in Lancashire and now has late stage dementia to need such high intensity caring?
My instinct is to look at care homes in London see how you can fund that care, have the whole family together and some chance of happiness and fulfilment for yourself. You do deserve that, after 7 years of caring, you've already done more than I could do.
The other thing to factor in, sadly with dementia she isn't going to get any better, her needs are only going to increase and it will get increasingly difficult. Just my opinion, not an expert.
Your daughter and grandchildren are in London.
Your friends are in London.
Your Mum is in Lancashire and now has late stage dementia to need such high intensity caring?
My instinct is to look at care homes in London see how you can fund that care, have the whole family together and some chance of happiness and fulfilment for yourself. You do deserve that, after 7 years of caring, you've already done more than I could do.
The other thing to factor in, sadly with dementia she isn't going to get any better, her needs are only going to increase and it will get increasingly difficult. Just my opinion, not an expert.
no love,it is not another country it is Windsor where I have my own home and my daughter and grandkids
Oh dear - perhaps I should have typed Local Authority. I wanted to emphasise that when someone moves to another area the new Local Authority have to come to some arrangement with the old one regarding funding. So please be sure about funding before moving your Mother to a new area.
Sorry for the misunderstanding.
Sorry for the misunderstanding.
thankyou,my eyes must be bad,great info,will look into it .I am taking mum to Windsor for xmas see how we get on .
