My husband was diagnosed with vascular dementia today. We have had a rocky relationship for a considerable time and I was on the point of leaving him but knew there was something wrong and I do care about him. Despite obstructive GP's, his denial, endless rows and hidden appointment letters I eventually managed to get a diagnosis. I now seem to be automatically cast in the role of his carer, I have not agreed to this or made a decision to be his carer so what are my options? I am emotionally & physically exhausted.