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Discussion in 'After dementia — dealing with loss' started by Aisling, Jun 13, 2017.
Morning Aisling, any news on the appointment. Hugs xxx
Sending you virtual hugs, Aisling. There'll always be someone on here to talk to and to listen to you.
Me too Aisling xx
Many thanks to all of you. You are helping me and I appreciate it very much. I am in a kind of hell. No energy or interest in anything. I have helped so many people over the years, family members etc and can't understand why there is no one around for me. I will just have to accept it and get on with it......
You may TP friends can are great.
Met someone briefly today who told me that people were tip toeing around me during Ts wake and that I had drunk gallons of coffee. So what
Oh my goodness, Aisling. Gallons of COFFEE?!! At your husband's wake? Oh deary me! Goodness - will you ever be able to show your face in public again after drinking coffee at your husband's wake?
Gosh. I just hope you didn't (*gasp!*) eat a sandwich or a piece of cake or something too - did you?! The neighbourhood would never get over it!
What on earth is wrong with people? Aisling, there were a couple of things happened around the time of my husband's death/funeral that made me so angry! But eventually, I just had to let it go, and now, I can even smile about them. Because in the end, it just didn't matter, in the larger scheme of things.
Hope you have a good night.
Hi Aisling, geez, too bad for them. Hope they've recovered from your irresponsible coffee drinking by now.
I'm so sorry you're this low. Would you take another a trip to your GP, even for talk time? It's not helping waiting for that appt and not knowing when it'll come. You need support now.
Sending a warm hug. Xxx
Am confusing myself now!! Maybe I will pluck up courage tomorrow and fone the surgery. I meant to do so for the past two days and " chickened out" I got a new mobile to keep on 24 hours when T was very ill. Maybe surgery has an old number!! Doc definitely said he would make the appointment. Maybe he is waiting till my own GP returns on Monday? 5am and " muggins" sitting with a knot in my stomach! How stupid is that??
I spent afternoon looking for the log book for NCT for car. Did I find it?? Heck no!!
My sister got down to me today for an hour. She was totally shocked at the state of my house. Not easy shock her!! Of course I was in bed but she has a key. She said I could let a bit of light into the room!!!
I went to see a neighbour yesterday. He is ninety years old. Lives happily on his own with his dogs, cats, chickens, ducks etc. I have known him since I was a child. A lovely man. He made me a rasher sandwich. Isn't that really nice?
With all the rooting today, I found a short article years ago on supporting people who are bereaved. I must read it tomorrow PG.
Am off now to make tea and toast and hope to get some sleep!
To all of you " my earth Angels" a million thanks for your support.
Aisling I hope you managed to get off to sleep. It sounds like your brain won't switch off right now into rest mode. It does take courage, but make the call and maybe see your own GP it's important that he or she understands the urgency. Xxx
Forgot to say, but as to the coffee you know some very opinionated people! If you'd downed half a dozen bottles of vodka I could understand it more, though given the day it would have been understandable. Very weird people!
Re car log book - have you looked in the "obvious" places - glove box and sun visors?
Now this is worrying - a tea habit as well as a coffee habit
Good morning Lavender,
Not a wink!!totally exhausted now. I agree, some people can be weird. Another one told me that " people were tip toeing around " during those awful days" I know I shouldn't let any of these comments bother me......
I know HillyBilly, coffee and tea addiction!! Glove box etc.... Yes! St Anthony usually finds things for me but he must be on holiday!!
Proper order, that people were tiptoeing around a newly bereaved widow! What did they think - that people should be just clumping around as if nothing had happened? When your life's companion has just died, you are extremely fragile. People should do a bit of tiptoeing! Anything else, I found, jars on the nerves.
Aisling, I have found the herbal remedy Melissa Dream really helpful for sleep. It takes a few nights to work, but if I'm having a bad patch, I take that for a while. Best thing is, it doesn't leave you groggy the next day. xx
Thanks again Lady A. Will try anything at this stage.
I hope you find the courage to ring Gp you really need something now. Your honestly not alone feeling like this we all have those days. Prescription meds don't have to be for ever but they do help you getting over the first hurdle. Hugs and more hugs sent xxx
Aisling, it's good to hear your sister called to you. I hope she can see the depth of your struggle and row in a little bit, if possible.
Can you drop in to your GP surgery withouth an appt? Would you?
Those late night horrors are horrendous. Somebody here pointed out to me once that decisions made/conclusions arrived at during those hours are unreliable. God you need sleep then.
Hope you find your NCT book today. In the meantime, ring them to ask is it absolutely necessary. They need numbers/reg numbers and doodahs from it but you might have those details elsewhere.
Sending you a tight tight hug. Keep eating the toast too, d'y'hear. Xxx
You might have already rung your GP but if not Aisling please take a deep breath and make the call. Get the GP to call you back then you can have a chat today.
Wish I could give you a proper hug but sending you a virtual one for now ((()))
I hope your NCT book has shown up, I'll say a little prayer to St Anthony as well.xx
Yes I phoned surgery. Should have app soon PG.
Good, good, good!!! Well done I know chasing it up wasn't easy. X
Oh so glad you bit the bullet Aisling, another step to getting the right help, well done xx
Aisling ☺. Not easy to make those calls, but you have done. Hope you get a good night's sleep tonight. Big hug. X