I felt I should write to let all the kind people who have replied to my previous posts know what has happened. My hubby's condition deteriorated on 5th November he was addmited to a Dementia Nursing home. Still walking with the aid of a frame and just about feeding himself. By Christmas a hoist was being used to transfer him from wheelchair to armchair or bed as he couldn't even stand. I asked them to call a Doctor but they only faxed him the details they thought necessary. I made numerous complaints the worse being his falls, especially at night. I was assured he would have a bed sensor and if he got out of bed the alarm would fetch help. So why was he getting as far as the corridor which would take ages as he could only move very slowly then falling. I asked the night nurse in charge and was told they turn his alarm off at night as it wakes other residents. Having seen the SRN Manager they put the alarm on at night, but the same thing happened again I asked why and was told they turned the alarm down low did not hear it from where they were in the lounge. I could go on about all the other personal care problems I had. I went in myself everyday to shave him and feed him, I even took paracetamol in for him as he was in pain. I complained to the head of the Home but as things got worse I had to complain to the powers above. Horrified they did spot checks and photo's were taken of his condition. We had his first review on 6th January and they too were disgusted. They reported it to the safeguarding team and POVA [Prevention Of Vulnerable Adults]. This was on the Tuesday, they also asked for an urgent blood test to be taken ASAP this wasn't done until Thursday. The Dr. receiving the results Friday afternoon went directly to the home and was asked why are you here we haven't called you. He saw hubby and immediately rang me explaining that kidney failure was when your kidney function was less than 15% and my hubby's was less than 10%. I rushed the 25 miles to the home by now evening and my hubby in bed. It was suggested better to leave him where he was for the night. Having had my suspicions I had left an audio recorder hidden in the room, to my regret not having chance to retrieve it I just left it where it was. My daughter and I were at the home first thing the next morning and heard hubby screaming as we got near his room. Three carers had him dressed in the hoist over the wheelchair. I asked didn't they know he had kidney failure and to immediately put him back on the bed. I insisted an ambulance be called but was told only if the Dr. said as it was a Nursing Home able to look after him. I called the Dr. Who on arrival called a high dependency ambulance for an acute admission to hospital. I took the audio recording home to check on my PC, it was voice activated so I cut out all the sections started by outside or other noises leaving only the parts where huby was screaming and crying pitifully saying will someone come, help me, help me, nurse where are you, the pain. I put all these together and in one night it totalled over 5 hours but nobody came. Needless to say the investigations into the home are continuing. Once in hospital he was extremely well cared for with dignity and respect, they spent 3 days trying to reverse the kidney problem even knowing it was not likely they could, then just the keeping him comfortable and free from pain. Seven days later I held his hand as he passed away. Last Tuesday he had a full military funeral with standard bearers, 3 buglers from his old regiment sounding The Last Post and people coming from Scotland to South Wales to pay their respects. My life must now continue without 'my old soldier' to whom I had been married to for over 65 years.