Hello All I'm sorry to post on something that is perhaps too personal/very sensitive/upsetting for others, but I've just been told by one of the docs at the hospital where Dad is that they would like to talk to me and Mum about what our feelings are if a situation where Dad needs resuscitating arises (I don't think they think it will necessarily happen right away but they're not equipped to deal with these things in quite the same way as a 'normal' hospital I think, as it's a small specialist hosp partly for elderly people with mental health probs and want to make sure we understand that amongst other things I suppose). Dad hasn't been eating or drinking very much this week and has been back on a drip for a couple of days after having to go on one last week when he was sick (might be an ulcer), although the doc said he's actually brighter today than he has been, 'chatting' a bit. I'm in shock I suppose, I knew Dad had been going downhill since he's been in the hosp (early Oct) as we felt it wasn't feasible to cope at home anymore and he seems very frail - but I hadn't quite got to thinking about this. I'm a bit worried about introducing the subject to Mum as she had a bad bout of angina last night and had to have the doc out and have an ECG, which may have been 'cos she went to see Dad on her own for the first time yesterday and was upset 'cos he was in some pain. But still I do want to talk to her about it over the weekend when I'm with her (we'll be seeing Dad both days hopefully) before we go and see the doc on Monday. Is there anywhere I can look for info? I have printed out the 'later stages' fac tsheet, I'm afraid we never discussed this poss with Dad before he was at a stage where he wouldn't understand really... I'm afraid I'll only be online until about 6pm then off 'til Monday as I don't have access at home.