I said I'd be back! I'm spending the week with my dad. My sister was here last week so that our stepmother could have a holiday. I showed stepmum this message board and we looked at a couple of threads - I've bookmarked it and suggested she just has a little explore and reads some of your threads to see if she thinks it would be helpful - I think she will do that. Anyway, I just wondered if anyone had any experience of/handy tips for dealing with someone with AD who is a) extremely restless and b) becoming a very fussy eater. Wanting to go out all the time Dad is extremely restless - I think because he was always very industrious, always working on some project, fiddling with some gadget, doing DIY, or tackling some problem. He was always a fixer - would work away at a problem (for days, weeks - even months - all alone in the garage) till he managed to find a solution, usually involving some sort of Botch-It-Yourself gadget he made out of a bent coathanger and a piece of string with a beautifully hand-turned wooden handle - he was very good at this (not to the satisfaction of me, my mum and my sister: constantly finding "gash bits of wood" screwed to things to make them work better ). So now, not surprisingly, he's bored out of his head. He can't concentrate for more than a few minutes. He can't even do a child's jigsaw any more. So he wants to go out - EVERY DAY!!!!!! Today I took him out in the morning and we went for a nice walk, had a cup of tea, went shopping (and he pushed the trolly round the supermarket and put it away after we loaded the boot Well done dad ), had lunch, hung out some laundry and dad helped with the poles, went out again in the afternoon and walked a good 10 - 15 minute walk to the shops, same back, came home and within minutes he was desperate to go out again. You'd have thought he'd been exhausted (he's spark out right now though - another night of up-and-down-the-stairs-we-go I fear ). Anyway this urge to go out every day is costing my step mum enormously - both in terms of her energy and her pocket (he does get attendance allowance so she can get some help, but petrol or bus tickets, lunch in cafe's etc quickly adds up). It's not so bad for me and sis, we're only here a week at a time, but it's taking an enormous toll on my stepmum. She's got some sedatives for him now for the night-time rambles which could help, but she doesn't want him to take them if they can get away without because she fears they'll make him more dopey and slow. I've been trying today to get him to help out with little chores and he did with some success (see above - hooray!). But all he can think about is "what do we do now..." Fussy Eater The other difficulty that is very trying and draining is that he's becoming very fussy with food and is starting to turn his nose up at food he always used to like. I made him a bacon and egg fry-up for lunch which went down very well - although he quibbled that the mushrooms were too dark (he adores mushrooms!) - I think his memory is partly the problem, if he has trouble recognising something, he won't risk it. I convinced him to cut one in half to satisfy himself it was okay inside, not burnt and he ate them happily. Tonight I gave him a frozen fish fillet and some peas and potatoes (sorry, veggie - not the best meat/fish chef, me ) and he really wasn't happy. Tried to tell me to take the fish out of the oven. It's so hard not to take it personally when he's picking over his food like a fussy toddler, pulling faces and grumbling. We've given up trying to cook to please him - it's no longer possible. I wonder if the AD is affecting his taste? smell? Or is it his medication? It certainly seems to be affecting his ability to recognise what he's eating or to identify something he likes on a menu. So - any similar experiences? Handy tips? Foolproof recipies that are wonderful to eat and help people relax? I'd be really grateful.