Hi
The first time OH went into respite I told him the truth!
You know I've not been well recently?
Yes
Well the doc has said I need a complete break
Yes
So I'm going to stay with the Cornish cousins.
Yes
Which means someone will have to look after you
Yes
I'd had Carers breakdown, so that was all true. He could have argued that he could look after himself, which I would have countered with, it'll be nice to have different meals and meet new people...
Anyway, this way, it was my problems that sent him to respite, not his. I think that helped. He was also used to going to daycare.we also used to see the Cornish cousins on a regular basis, so it wasn't something unexpected.
Good luck!