Good morning everyone. Just looking for some comfort I guess. My 92 year old Mum is going into a care home for 2 weeks respite. She has been a bit poorly with a chest infection. I was on holiday last week and my sister struggled to cope. The social worker and CPN think Mum needs respite and so do we as carers. Mum has never been in before. I know the home is good and they will look after her. I have spent the night with Mum as I usually do once a week but am sitting crying my eyes out. I spend so much time with her either on the phone or in person that I am worried she will find it really difficult. She gets very cross with me when I go on holiday as she thinks I should be there with her. So how on earth am I going to get through today. I am struggling already!
Also - mum is not self funding so there is a big top up fee for the 2 weeks. So what I don't understand is that social services have said we need a break but I now have to pay £300 a week top up. I have had a carers assessment done and still waiting to hear the outcome! The social worker said I could have 3 hours a week break (take a break scheme) but as yet keeps putting me off when I chase her. To be fair if it means Mum gets a couple of good quality weeks respite I will pay it. Appears my other siblings aren't going to help!
Thanks everyone for letting me say this. Think it has helped just writing it down. I know I have to be strong today for my Mum.
Also - mum is not self funding so there is a big top up fee for the 2 weeks. So what I don't understand is that social services have said we need a break but I now have to pay £300 a week top up. I have had a carers assessment done and still waiting to hear the outcome! The social worker said I could have 3 hours a week break (take a break scheme) but as yet keeps putting me off when I chase her. To be fair if it means Mum gets a couple of good quality weeks respite I will pay it. Appears my other siblings aren't going to help!
Thanks everyone for letting me say this. Think it has helped just writing it down. I know I have to be strong today for my Mum.