Hi Any ideas on how I can speak to Dad about respite. I have found a really good place and I am taking him to see it on Tuesday. They will assess his needs while we visit. Trouble is he doesn't realise he's got any needs. He has lived with me for 16 months and during that time has been diagnosed with mixed dementia which we think he has had for 5 years progressing very slowly. Though we have discussed it he does not believe he has Alzheimer's. He also does not remember that his house has been sold so at times of stress says he's going home. Mum died in January . She had been in a nursing home and had VD. Dad does remember she has died thankfully. I feel things are only going to get worse with Dad and would just like a few days break with my husband to buoy us up for times to come. Dad's a very intelligent man and a former managing director .He still gives out an aurora of authority which can make me feel 8 rather than 58 even though I know he won't change his pants unless I lay them out for him. What ever I say to get Dad to see the respite home on Friday he will forget by the next day or even that afternoon but I have to say something to explain why we are going there. I wish so much the veil of confusion would lift and I could explain everything to him. I know if he was himself he would understand my need for a break.