Hi all, I have just had a visit from mental health team who have told me that after the test they did mum now is in the latter stages of dementia which i already suspected. The problem is they are advising me to take up the offer of respite care ,do i start it for a day a weekend i am frightend that mum will get more confused being put in a strange place and it will make my job so much harder when she comes back.Then theres the guilt it seems like admitting defeat, iknow thats wrong but i am so confused i dont know what im asking you guys for because i know the pros and cons but you are the only ones who understand how i feel.storm