Honey, you seem to be in an impossible situation. It seems that there is no provision for early-onset dementia sufferers anywhere. Chip has been having similar problems here in Scotland. Have you contacted the local branch of the Alzheimer's Society? They will know if there is an Alzheimer's day centre in your area. If you can get your Dad into one, what would be your best bet, as the staff will work with the patients to stimulate them. I'm so grateful that John has his place there. Failing that, you can visit any day centres in your area (without warning), and see what activities they have, and the relative ages of the patients. Do you have a branch of Crossroads in your area? If so, SS can arrange for your Mum to have some time to herself while omeone comes in to care for your Dad. The Crosroads carer can either stay in while your Mum goes out, or can take your Dad out while your Mum has a rest. Another suggestion is Princess Royal Trust for Carers. They would be able contact SS for you to find the best possible support for your Mum. We really do need a campaign to ort out provision for early-onset patients. Let us know how you get on. All the best.