We have just dropped mum off for respite for a week. I feel terribly guilty but know deep down we need this time to rest and recover. I know she'll be well looked after, but still feel like ive abandoned her!. I have twin boys who live at home, ones girlfriend is 18 on wednesday and is having a get together which normally we wouldnt go to cos of mum. Its also our anniversary on tuesday (31 years) and were2 going out to dinner, like normal people, not carers . I mite ring the ch later to check on mum. Sorry to go on, just needed to talk it through with people that understand how we feel.