I've just had to put my dad in respite for a week. And it was a mistake. He's had the 'flu and I'd had to move in with him for a fortnight, leaving my hubby and seven year old son at home. Husband is currently off work with anxiety disorder, not helped by the fact I am dad's full time carer. However, he lets me get on with it and understands we don't really have much alternative. Anyway, at the start of last week dad fell (he's 73 and other than the vascular dementia is very fit). He cut his head open and the hospital said he couldn't be left alone. I'd only just moved back home and gone back to work (I only do 12 hours a week) after being off for a fortnight looking after dad. I felt I had no alternative as the hospital got SS involved and said he couldn't be left alone. So I put him in respite care. They were nice people. It was a nice place. But everyone seemed to be very different to dad. Everyone was older. They didn't really move or do anything all day. There wasn't any conversation. Whenever I went to see him he was sat looking at a wall or asleep. So, I've brought him home. But he doesn't seem to recognise his home anymore. He's been like this since he had the 'flu. Obviously I've got to give him chance to get over it, but what is the advice when a dementia sufferer no longer recognises his own home? I'm thinking extra care housing? There seem to be no facilities in our area for dementia patients who are younger and quite active. We are self funding so affordability is a major issue. But I don't know what to do for the best and I'd welcome any advice.