Hi all,
Little old me again, with yet more questions. (Detects a collective sigh....lol)
My Aunt announced yesterday that she is taking a weeks holiday in June, and she instructed(!) my Mum to consider putting Gran in respite Care for a week, so that Mum could have a break too.
My question(s):
Do SS decide if Gran fits the criteria for Respite care?
Do they decide how long she goes for or doesn't go for?
Do they pay for it, or do we have to fund it?
Are we able to request where she goes for the respite period?
If we request where she goes, do we have to pay or will they still pay if they do pay, if you see what I mean?
How do we approach Gran with the idea of it? Do we tell her that it's a Care Home, or do we tell her she's having a holiday, just like Mum and my Aunt, what?
I see this as a good opportunity for the home near me to see Gran, to assess her as they said they would if we ever went down this road. I think that it would be an ideal opportunity for Gran to see what a care home is like in this day and age, and may well spur her into seeing that it's best for her to go 24/7. I also know full well that Mum will not take the chance to have a week's break, it would be absolute agony for her to know that Gran was so close but she wasnt bothering with her, but are we allowed to visit her when she's in respite or what the heck?
I've suggested to mum that it would be a good chance to get Gran to trust us with decisions, that we could tell her that she WILL be going home at the end of the week, and that as she WOULD go home, it would reinforce her faith in mum that she can be trusted. Am I making sense here?
If anyone has any advice for me, it would be greatly appreciated. I'm going to go to the home tomorrow too, to see if they can give me any info for mum to help her decide what's best.
Thanks, sorry for all the questions, I should have been called Magnus, I think!!
Gill
xx
Little old me again, with yet more questions. (Detects a collective sigh....lol)
My Aunt announced yesterday that she is taking a weeks holiday in June, and she instructed(!) my Mum to consider putting Gran in respite Care for a week, so that Mum could have a break too.
My question(s):
Do SS decide if Gran fits the criteria for Respite care?
Do they decide how long she goes for or doesn't go for?
Do they pay for it, or do we have to fund it?
Are we able to request where she goes for the respite period?
If we request where she goes, do we have to pay or will they still pay if they do pay, if you see what I mean?
How do we approach Gran with the idea of it? Do we tell her that it's a Care Home, or do we tell her she's having a holiday, just like Mum and my Aunt, what?
I see this as a good opportunity for the home near me to see Gran, to assess her as they said they would if we ever went down this road. I think that it would be an ideal opportunity for Gran to see what a care home is like in this day and age, and may well spur her into seeing that it's best for her to go 24/7. I also know full well that Mum will not take the chance to have a week's break, it would be absolute agony for her to know that Gran was so close but she wasnt bothering with her, but are we allowed to visit her when she's in respite or what the heck?
I've suggested to mum that it would be a good chance to get Gran to trust us with decisions, that we could tell her that she WILL be going home at the end of the week, and that as she WOULD go home, it would reinforce her faith in mum that she can be trusted. Am I making sense here?
If anyone has any advice for me, it would be greatly appreciated. I'm going to go to the home tomorrow too, to see if they can give me any info for mum to help her decide what's best.
Thanks, sorry for all the questions, I should have been called Magnus, I think!!
Gill
xx