Dear TP Family,
I'm in a bit of a fix with my IN LAWS again regarding respite.
I've been having a VERY VERY difficult time with my husband, and it looks like that in the next year or so ........
'I may have to decide on something' more permanent.
I remember reading on here ages ago (may have been Bruce).... who said that ......
"You are not saying I'm NOT going to do this anymore .... but .... CAN'T do this any more" .
Anyway, a week of respite is what I need to arrange.
it will only be my second week in as many years.
Things have progressed downhill.
IN LAWS (USLESS BUNCH..... SORRY !!).... NOT HAPPY ABOUT
THE ARRANGEMENT/S.
"Why do I need to have time off to myself?"
"You are soooooo lucky at not having to work"
That's a joke... I work harder now than I ever did when I WAS working.
They ALL think that I'm selfish.
NONE of them EVER visit for longer than a couple of hours MAX....
They don't understand (typicall I know...)
(We can count on one hand the number of visits that we receive...)
How is it that those who NEVER ring / visit ... all KNOW better than ME?
I've now 'been accused' of not coping .... (said in a really patronising way).
If i was coping then i would not need a week to myself....
Gggrrrrr......
MIL does not want me to mention AD ever again....
SHE ALONG WITH THE REST OF THE IN LAW FAMILY ARE IN DENIAL.
HOW IS THIS SO?
HOW CAN SO MANY PEOPLE IN THE SAME FAMILY ... ALL BE THINKING THE WRONG WAY?
She recently asked me YET AGAIN to think about arrangiing a motability scooter for her son / my husband.....
THE MAN GETS LOST GOING TO THE LOO !!
HE HAS EPILEPSY....
MULTIPLE STROKES / MOBILITY PROBLEMS.... AND
MOST IMPORTANTLY....
HE CAN'T SEE !!! (well... he can see a little bit).....
She is NOT going to take NO for an answer.
Sorry, but she's crazy......
You would have thought that the VERY fact that you can't see a great deal... would mean that a scoooter IS OUT OF THE QUESTION?????
Anyway,
What to do about their comments about me NOT coping?
I'm thinking that in some way they may use this against me in the future....
What I am meant to do?
How do I EVER get a break? without being accused of not coping........????
I still have not slept in months.... due to the continued questions and wanderings of the night....
Sorry for rambling on....
Feeling a bit low today.....
Take care
DaisyG
I'm in a bit of a fix with my IN LAWS again regarding respite.
I've been having a VERY VERY difficult time with my husband, and it looks like that in the next year or so ........
'I may have to decide on something' more permanent.
I remember reading on here ages ago (may have been Bruce).... who said that ......
"You are not saying I'm NOT going to do this anymore .... but .... CAN'T do this any more" .
Anyway, a week of respite is what I need to arrange.
it will only be my second week in as many years.
Things have progressed downhill.
IN LAWS (USLESS BUNCH..... SORRY !!).... NOT HAPPY ABOUT
THE ARRANGEMENT/S.
"Why do I need to have time off to myself?"
"You are soooooo lucky at not having to work"
That's a joke... I work harder now than I ever did when I WAS working.
They ALL think that I'm selfish.
NONE of them EVER visit for longer than a couple of hours MAX....
They don't understand (typicall I know...)
(We can count on one hand the number of visits that we receive...)
How is it that those who NEVER ring / visit ... all KNOW better than ME?
I've now 'been accused' of not coping .... (said in a really patronising way).
If i was coping then i would not need a week to myself....
Gggrrrrr......
MIL does not want me to mention AD ever again....
SHE ALONG WITH THE REST OF THE IN LAW FAMILY ARE IN DENIAL.
HOW IS THIS SO?
HOW CAN SO MANY PEOPLE IN THE SAME FAMILY ... ALL BE THINKING THE WRONG WAY?
She recently asked me YET AGAIN to think about arrangiing a motability scooter for her son / my husband.....
THE MAN GETS LOST GOING TO THE LOO !!
HE HAS EPILEPSY....
MULTIPLE STROKES / MOBILITY PROBLEMS.... AND
MOST IMPORTANTLY....
HE CAN'T SEE !!! (well... he can see a little bit).....
She is NOT going to take NO for an answer.
Sorry, but she's crazy......
You would have thought that the VERY fact that you can't see a great deal... would mean that a scoooter IS OUT OF THE QUESTION?????
Anyway,
What to do about their comments about me NOT coping?
I'm thinking that in some way they may use this against me in the future....
What I am meant to do?
How do I EVER get a break? without being accused of not coping........????
I still have not slept in months.... due to the continued questions and wanderings of the night....
Sorry for rambling on....
Feeling a bit low today.....
Take care
DaisyG