So I have been off line since the move but a kind friend leant me a dongle to enable me to speak to you all again.
Respite went better than I ever could have hoped. He loved it at the hotel where everyone was lovely and it didn't cost him anything. He wants to go back again soon . So i have booked him in for the week when I go to New York with my daughter for 4 nights but am contemplating a fortnight as he only came home on Sunday and already I am exhausted.
House move went well got the decorators and builders in at the moment and am chasing round choosing carpets wall paper and new kitchen.
OH going now to day care 3 days a week just for this week to give me some space. Not sure really how much more of his aggression ( just started again) , wandering , checking and just general bad attitude towards me , I can stand.
I know people have it far tougher and are very tolerant. But maybe I am not cut out to be a carer.
Er .... and who is? None of us ever envisaged that this would be "our lot" in life, and we can all only do our best. There are zillions of spouses who never have to go through the lives that AD carers have, and though they may say what they
would do, or not do, they're not having to do it, are they!
It's hard work, harder than looking after babies, cos we were all young then, and babies are cute, and we know they'll grow out of their nappies. And when they reach the Terrible 2s - well looking back, it's wasn't so terrible. I remember taking John to a supermarket, and wishing I could put reins on him.
If the 3 days a week Day Care works out this week, could you not think of that as something permanent? I know cost, depending on your post code, can be horrendous, and I paid £9 an hour, but if I'd had to, and could have found any takers,
I'd have done
anything to pay for it.
Glad the move went well, and also the respite.