Hi, have not visited for a while but have just been offered respite for my husband of 52 years (he is now 80) and had alzheimers for several years. How do you approach the subject of him going for respite, is it best to just announce on the day we are off for a short break and when we get there go in to see the place and use some distraction method to leave him, or try to make him understand he is going on a little break on his own to give me the much needed break. Not only am I currently dealing with his constant need of me but my mother aged 90 for whom I am also sole carer has been diagnosed with terminal cancer with an expectancy of 3/4 months, so I desperately need a bit of time to myself but feel very guilty about sending my husband away. Any advice would be appreciated.