Hi Everyone, I'm Gee and this is he first time I've posted a message. I have a problem in that I need a break. I look after My Mother 24 hours a day seven days a week, and I am so tired. I have been offered respite for my mother, but where do I send her I can find no one who says. 'Wow that home we had Mum in is great. The people are wonderful, and they really do look after your parents whilst in their care'. I really find it hard to get out and go out looking at homes, plus when I get there how do I know that they are any good. She went into respite back in April, and I thought the home she went into seemed great, but when I brought her home she had a chest infection, a URT infection (and no wonder they had only used 6 pads in 10 days for her). She said that everyone was nice except one man who was very cruel, he made her do things which she knew was wrong but she had to do them. What she meant she would'nt tell me. She said she could never say. I reported what she had said, but have heard nothing back. Now I not saying anything did happen to her, but how do I know. Since being away she clings to me is afraid of my walking out of the room and leaving her there. She has to be where ever I am. Her Alzheimers is ten times worse now. I am desperate for a break but how do I find a safe, nice loving and caring home. I ask the Social workers am I allowed to send her to a home where my son lives so he can visit whlist I'm away, or can she give me advice about the home's, but she know's nothing and tells me I have to find a place that I feel is safe. Can anyone out there help me? Gee