Hello everyone
I haven't posted anything for a while but have had great support from reading other's experiences makes you realise you are not alone.
Father-in-law scored 13 on his last memory test so is apparently deteriorating at the average rate of 2 points per year. However after the last assessment it was felt that mum-in-law needed some repite. At first FIL agreed to go into the local care home for a few days then decided that he wouldn't so we suggested that he came to stay with us for a couple of days to give MIL a break. He thought this was a good idea and we started to make plans for this. They live an hour and a halfs drive away from us, so when we rang to discuss arrangements he got awkward and said I don't need to come to you I have to stay here to look after my wife. His wife told him that she needed a break and usually he will do anything she wants, but he is determined that he cannot leave his wife as she needs him and as he started to get agitated MIL has decided that he can have his way as she doesn't want to upset him. The problem is she desperately needs some repite and time to herself.
Has anyone had experience of this and if so have you any suggestions as to how we can get him to either come away and give her some time or how to get him to stay at home so that she can escape for some quality time?
kind regards
Alysia
I haven't posted anything for a while but have had great support from reading other's experiences makes you realise you are not alone.
Father-in-law scored 13 on his last memory test so is apparently deteriorating at the average rate of 2 points per year. However after the last assessment it was felt that mum-in-law needed some repite. At first FIL agreed to go into the local care home for a few days then decided that he wouldn't so we suggested that he came to stay with us for a couple of days to give MIL a break. He thought this was a good idea and we started to make plans for this. They live an hour and a halfs drive away from us, so when we rang to discuss arrangements he got awkward and said I don't need to come to you I have to stay here to look after my wife. His wife told him that she needed a break and usually he will do anything she wants, but he is determined that he cannot leave his wife as she needs him and as he started to get agitated MIL has decided that he can have his way as she doesn't want to upset him. The problem is she desperately needs some repite and time to herself.
Has anyone had experience of this and if so have you any suggestions as to how we can get him to either come away and give her some time or how to get him to stay at home so that she can escape for some quality time?
kind regards
Alysia