Hi all, Background is my mother has mixed vascular dementia and Alzheimer's and had been coping with help from my sister and I and a wonderful Carer who comes 3-4 times a week. Issue is mum has started to leave the house, just to walk the shops or church but this is despite us telling her one of us will be there later that day to take her ourselves. She forgets we have told her this as soon as she puts the phone down. She gets there and back but my worry is in don't feel she is road safe anymore and I also worry about her paying for things as she asks the person on the till how much to take. Fine if we are with her but not on her own. At the end of August we are having a family holiday for my sons 21st and we will both be out if the country a week and now I am worried sick what will happen when both my sister and i are away. We can't take mum, heat, flight, familiarity all make it impossible. I want to cancel but this situation is putting enough pressure on my family and cancelling the family holiday would be the final straw i feel. I think my husband is as patient as he can be but I know mum seems to be my only topic of conversation these days. Is this the time to think about more permanent care? My sister and I both live 60 miles away and can only go once every 5-7 days each as we work full time so I am now thinking that we should be thinking about getting a more permanent care either in home or a care home itself. She is with it in so many other ways and it breaks my heart to think about her leaving her home. I just don't know to do, both in the short term about the holiday and long term re mums care. Any advice gratefully received!