So I'm looking to get a view point on a family situation not sure where to start.. other people's view points would be welcome!
My mother lives with my sister and her husband in my mother's house, our mother has Alzheimer's and She has to have help with washing, can't prepare any meals/drinks/ we have had issues with tolieting and she has to have someone with her all the time she has been known to wander in recent times which has been a worry! And she gets up a fair bit in the night and has to be put back to bed. To describe in a crude way it's like looking after a young child/ that level of care.
My sister is pregnant, first child and I'm really concerned that this situation is not going to work for many reasons but she said she had cope with it.
Has anyone got experience of this situation? Can suggest how we best handle this situation without it ending up in a big fallout? My sister does not contribute to the house in the form of rental, we do have a carer for when she's at work which is very expensive and my mother pays for. My mother Is a self funder due to savings which are currently being used for her care but that won't last forever. I feel that if my sister is not going to be working we should not longer have the carer as she'll be home with the baby but how will she cope with it all?
I have suggested in the past that Perhaps it was time to move out if she was starting a family and how would it work but it was met with the response of we will deal with it and it felt to them like I was trying to push them out which I wasn't, I was just trying to be realistic about the situation and has everyone's welfare at heart. I have children myself with my ex so I know how hard life with children is, unfortunately I live 100 miles away from my mother and only live in a 1 bedroom flat. I regularly go down and see my mother and help out and take her away for the weekend. I'm worried the impact this situation is going to have on everyone living in the house!
My mother lives with my sister and her husband in my mother's house, our mother has Alzheimer's and She has to have help with washing, can't prepare any meals/drinks/ we have had issues with tolieting and she has to have someone with her all the time she has been known to wander in recent times which has been a worry! And she gets up a fair bit in the night and has to be put back to bed. To describe in a crude way it's like looking after a young child/ that level of care.
My sister is pregnant, first child and I'm really concerned that this situation is not going to work for many reasons but she said she had cope with it.
Has anyone got experience of this situation? Can suggest how we best handle this situation without it ending up in a big fallout? My sister does not contribute to the house in the form of rental, we do have a carer for when she's at work which is very expensive and my mother pays for. My mother Is a self funder due to savings which are currently being used for her care but that won't last forever. I feel that if my sister is not going to be working we should not longer have the carer as she'll be home with the baby but how will she cope with it all?
I have suggested in the past that Perhaps it was time to move out if she was starting a family and how would it work but it was met with the response of we will deal with it and it felt to them like I was trying to push them out which I wasn't, I was just trying to be realistic about the situation and has everyone's welfare at heart. I have children myself with my ex so I know how hard life with children is, unfortunately I live 100 miles away from my mother and only live in a 1 bedroom flat. I regularly go down and see my mother and help out and take her away for the weekend. I'm worried the impact this situation is going to have on everyone living in the house!
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