My MiL has been in her care home for 11 days now, visiting on Saturday she was in her room and postively did not want to come out, she has always been in the lounge with the other residents when I have visited before. she was as usual very distressed and continued to ask when she was going home, could I take her now and how did the furniture get here. I am finding the extremely hard going, I cannot seem to be able to take here mind off the subject of home, she seems to have lost all of her memory and cannot remember her childhood or recent (2 mins ago) events. Because her memory is no-existent she cannot remeber visitors, what she has eaten or done, when she was at home we would rely on the book completed by the carers at each visit so thought I would ask the staff at the home. They were not forthcoming on giving me access to MiL notes and have suggested I buy a diary which can be filed in and kept in her room. I have done this and will be taking it in tonight. Is it too much to expect to have access to MiL notes? I have mentioned this to a collegue at work, (his daughter has worked in the care home environment locally) he has said that a neighbour of his is going to try the assisted living accomodation at the same home (MiL 'reminiscence') but his daughter has said that although this company spend a lot of time and money on the accomodtion there reputation for care is not soo good.