Hello. Oh that sounds very upsetting for you and not pleasant for your husband either. I am new to all this so I don't think I can advise you but I do think that it doesn't seem right that you should be washing your husband and changing his sheets. But I can certainly see why you did do this today. I have also showered my Mum when she looked like she hadn't had her hair washed for days and I felt better myself for doing something for her but was also thinking that I shouldn't have to shower her! I guess you will have to keep note over the next week or so and re-address it with the home manager if it doesn't seem acceptable. Really hope today was a one off situation for you both.