For the first time I looked online this afternoon at local care homes and now feeel underhand and disloyal. My OH has vascular dementia and in middle stages but has poor mobility and if this declines further I don't know, even with stair lift, bed rail, zimmer frame, bed and chair risers et al, whether I could manage to the end. My sensible head says it would make sense to start looking now to avoid a frantic rush if the decision should suddenly need to be made. (He had another small stroke last week that has really knocked him back) I wondered what others thought? Many thanks.