Hello, I am new to this group. My father-in-law is currently on his way to the UK, having reached a crisis in France where he has lived alone for about 5 years. Until a cry for help from a neighbour we knew nothing, other than his memory was a little poor. In the past week, we have found out that 8 months ago he visited a memory clinic and was diagnosed with moderate Alzheimer's. Sadly a 'helpful' neighbour has been selective with the truth and we have had reports that he is doing v well etc when in fact this man has been taking over - including banking etc.
My husband is currently collecting him and after two days together is getting a measure of how he is. He's terribly confused, communicating is very difficult and he's not remembering to eat etc. We've now got our hands on the memory clinic report which states he needs constant care. He will need to isolate at our house, but we have no space, no spare bed, three kids homeschooling and two of us working from home.
All I have planned so far is a GP telephone apt but not sure what I can do to make any further plans??
We all feel (him included) that a return to France is impossible - he is adamant not to end up in care there and he doesn't speak the language and lives in the middle of nowhere.
However, I would love some advice about how we know what the best next step is for him? Do we rent him a place and get care arranged? Or a residential home? The LA told me today that he won't be priority as he will be safe in our home. We have no idea if he has any money as 'helpful' neighbour has been managing his finances. Any advice please, I am really concerned how we are going to cope! Thank you
My husband is currently collecting him and after two days together is getting a measure of how he is. He's terribly confused, communicating is very difficult and he's not remembering to eat etc. We've now got our hands on the memory clinic report which states he needs constant care. He will need to isolate at our house, but we have no space, no spare bed, three kids homeschooling and two of us working from home.
All I have planned so far is a GP telephone apt but not sure what I can do to make any further plans??
We all feel (him included) that a return to France is impossible - he is adamant not to end up in care there and he doesn't speak the language and lives in the middle of nowhere.
However, I would love some advice about how we know what the best next step is for him? Do we rent him a place and get care arranged? Or a residential home? The LA told me today that he won't be priority as he will be safe in our home. We have no idea if he has any money as 'helpful' neighbour has been managing his finances. Any advice please, I am really concerned how we are going to cope! Thank you