Hi, my mother and father in law lives in Lincolnshire and me and my husband (their son) lives in Surrey. My mother in law was diagnosed with dementa on Monday. For one reason and another I am the one who instigated the doctors appointments and am the main contact for anything to do with everything that has gone on, including attending the doctors appointments. I feel completely helpless mainly for living so far away and just don't know what else I can do to help them both. Is anyone else in the same situation as me?