I think you are right that there is probably not much use in appealing to sympathy or reasoning. After 10 years, it's very unlikely that Peg has much real understanding of her condition and its impact on you. In some ways that is a blessing for her, but it does make it harder on you.Norman said:My wife is still very astute,reasoning would not help,It would be "I can stay here there is nothing wrong with me" That is what she told the consultant!!
No good appealing to sympathy"I need a break" AD sufferers seem incapable of being sympathetic.
My white lies over the past 10 years have worked and I do realise that in the end the only way to get anything done is to do it and so far it has worked.