After caring for my Mum at home for several years her dementia finally deteriorated to the point where, after her spending five weeks in hospital following a mini stroke where it looked like she was going to die, the medical team told me that if she did survive it would be impossible for me to look after her at home anymore. Anyway with great reluctance I agreed and luckily managed to get Mum into a really good care home. She settled in well and has improved hugely physically (in hospital she simply would not eat, now she is eating really well and even able to get out of bed with just the help of two assistants instead of the hoist) although her mental decline is obviously irreversible.
But to get to the point ... I'm finding it terribly hard to get used to her being there and what has really added to the hurt is that my two cousins and aunt who have previously been very supportive have only been to see her once since she went into the home nearly two months ago. It's as though they've now just abandoned her. I know she may not recognise them but she is still her if you know what I mean and this has really upset me. I don't want to say anything as they've been very good in the past but it is really difficult.
Has anybody else experienced anything like this?,
But to get to the point ... I'm finding it terribly hard to get used to her being there and what has really added to the hurt is that my two cousins and aunt who have previously been very supportive have only been to see her once since she went into the home nearly two months ago. It's as though they've now just abandoned her. I know she may not recognise them but she is still her if you know what I mean and this has really upset me. I don't want to say anything as they've been very good in the past but it is really difficult.
Has anybody else experienced anything like this?,