I received so much hassle from his immediate family (I could write a small book here) that, from his point of view, all I did was to show intent, as the Court of Protection instruct. Hope this helps,
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Connie hi,
can we become co-authors? in the book?
The hassle (and most from my own family) has been almost funny they went so berserk when I registered the POA and informed them officially!!-- even visited en masse!
My daughter blew it a bit when asked to help me with Monique instead of watching Big Brother, threw a tantrum and exited at 23.00 with balding boy friend in tow, in search of a good hotel and returned to Angleterre the next morning.
Very sadly we live in the centre of the old town, surrounded with hotels half empty in the winter.. Very happily none have UK TV or Big Brother!!!
It is interesting how the £ concentrates the minds of the onlookers!
As a result of this visit I sent them all by recorded delivery the following letter:-
To:
Veronique xxxx
Laurent xxxx
Jacques xxxx
The Monique situation
As you all three know Monique’s health has deteriorated greatly during the last 12 months and she now needs somebody with her constantly - 24/7/.
If I do not get some time off during this year my health will suffer. Pursuant to that, I made a request to the Alzheimer’s home, to take Monique for one week this spring. They have no vacancies this year nor are likely to. The alternative is to place Monique in a ‘old age care home’, which does not specialise in Alzheimer’s, for my respite periods. This will certainly cause Monique considerable distress and unhappiness and is not something I am comfortable with.
The need for respite, to maintain my own health and sanity, prompts me to ask all three of you to give one week of your life each, during this year, to come to La Rochelle and be in the house with Monique whilst I take respite.
Carers come in 7 days a week to get her up and shower her etc. One comes in twice a week for the entire afternoon and one comes in twice a week to do housework and be with Monique.
In addition to the carers outlined above, it would be no problem to arrange for a carer to come in during the evening and put Monique to bed, if dressing and undressing her is a problem for you.
I would be grateful if each one of you would consider the situation and let me know if you are able to give one week each, in order to provide respite for me and avoid placing Monique in an unsatisfactory ‘home’ for these periods.
Please let me know Yes or No if you can do this and indicate the approximate dates you would like to come here.
I look forward to your response
To be fair my son has telephoned to ask why 'recorded delivery' - answer - to be certain that unlike emails, which are ignored, every body know the problem and can never say 'I didn't know'.
He was pleasant and is talking with his girl friend... Maybe..
I have a feeling that the only way to deal with 'family' is to be tough/rough - tell them what the situation is = then cut them out of your will!!
crocodile smile
Michael