My mom is not happy or settled in the care home yet - she wants to go home but I know it cannot happen. Last weekend she was very unsettled and on the Sunday did attempt to break out. The Mental Health Consultant altered her meds on Monday and all seemed ok until Wednesday night when she had a temperature and raised pulse - GP sent her to hospital to be checked out. Hospital gave precautionary antibiotics for a UTI and as far as I am aware did nothing else prior to discharge back to the care home. Early hours of this morning the care home rung to say that my mom was being taken back to the hospital as she was extremely sleepy and not talking whilst sitting in a chair. Spent most of this morning trying to find her at the hospital - in the end the hospital phoned me thinking I was the previous care home that she was in early last year! That is the 3rd time the hospital has done that and yet again I put them straight. They are now carrying out blood and water tests to find out if something is going on.Ive had similar issues with my Mother , Social Services were far from helpfull they only considered things from a local authority financial angle , Psychiatric nurse tested Mum and she scored 8/30 and told us this indicated mid to late stage Dementia , And said Mum wasnt capable of making any big decisions about her own future as she didnt have capacity , We had started asking Mum to consider going in a care home at this point as we had supported her on a daily basis for 3 yrs and even with the hrlp of 3 carers a day we still couldnt cover all possibilities especially at night , In the end Mum got another of her many chest infections which led to a AE visit then admission to hospital , I found the only way was to refuse to bring Mum back home as we simply couldnt cope anymore, Aftrr a 2 week stand off eventually Social Services got involved to help free up the bed , They moved mum to a local care home temporarily for 3 weeks then later agreed to another 3 months temp stay , Since Mums been in the Care Home i would say shes had better care than we could provide and seems happier there.
I can guarantee when they have ensured that she is medically fit someone in their wisdom will say she can go home - not a chance I should never have allowed Social Services to persuade me to let this happen in September as we are literally back to where we started and it is my mom that is suffering all this upheaval. Social Services will not have to fund a care home so I do not see why they keep insisting home is the best place. Sorry for rambling.