Mum has been in care home for 5 weeks now. It has been really hard and each time I visit she's nasty and wanting to go home. In saying that, she has also told me she likes it there, the staff are lovely and the food is great. Staff say shes happy and joining in which I'm relieved to hear. At home she wasn't washing and she has started to refuse to get showered in the home. I visited yesterday and her hair was awful. I said about it but she was adamant she had showered herself. . Any suggestions?