Apologies. I know this was discussed recently but I can't find the thread. Mum is self funding so I've no support from SS. I've got to go away for a few days in a month or so and I've found mum a nice care home that, subject to having a bed available, have agreed to take her for respite (with a view to a permanent arrangement, if I'm honest). I know she'll come to love it but when I try to mention it to her, she simply refuses and claims she can manage perfectly well on her own. She can't. She has no concept of the fact that she phones me constantly complaining about being left on her own (sometimes calling literally minutes after I've left her house), hasn't shopped or made herself a meal for many months and needs reminding to take her medication, wash, etc. There is simply no way I can leave her for a day let alone a few days but if she flatly refuses to go, or to leave the house even, what do I do?