Hi my sister & I look after my father between us he lives with my sister but when she goes to work I have my dad he stays every weekend with me.we are now 8 years on from being diagnosed with Alzheimer's as we all know it's longer from us knowing things going wrong.so we are in a routine with him he is 83 we manage his moments ha ha between us which we are lucky to be able to support each other.But the problem I have at the moment is my mother-in-law she has Alzheimer's & 4 years diagnosed but her hip has gone & was told it would need replacing so my father-in-law took her to the hospital to see the consultant & was promptly told he would not do the operation because of her mental state & fear of infection. My father-in-law was upset so I sent him back for a second opinion & I went with him only to be told the same thing plus by law they cannot operate unless mother-in-law was able to sign a consent form for the op.she would have to remember what she was there for & understand what the op meant (no chance) the only time they will replace her hip is when it breaks(great).Anybody had the same problem.Oh they also said the anesthetic would make her Alzheimer's worse & would not come back she would probably forget us.That upset father-in-law we came away.I am still not happy about this.We can do the after care I have done this before & would be able to put thing in place to look after her.