Geraldine said in a posting today "I had good friends to support me." Hmm... you made me think! There's a lot of negativity in our situations, but I have found over the course of the past 14 years that I have identified a whole set of friends I never appreciated I had. I went on holiday last year - simply had to get away after years of caring for Jan. I humm'ed and haa'ed until my boss at work said "you're worrying about her in the care home seeing no-one. Don't worry, your colleagues are all very concerned about you both. I'm sure they will offer to visit while you are away." And they did. Not only that, but the company lent me a tri-band phone so they could text me with news while I was in the U.S. Other friends have visited Jan, not to give me a rest, but to show I am not alone. Friends have bought clothes for her on my behalf when I couldn't figure where to buy them. Friends have put up with my long face at family dinners, during the worst of it. And now, here, a whole new bunch of friends are sharing experiences with me. Yes, let's say thanks to all the friends!