Hi everyone, i am having real issues dealing with my mothers recent Diagnosis. We have known for a while that something wasnt right with my mother, after family appeals and many denials, my mother didnt recognise my dad and phoned the police on him, they convinced her to goto hospital. After some traumatic days waiting for a diagnosis we now know she has vascular dementia. I had a very emotional call from my father to tell me, he had the hideous task of informing all four of his kids, Initially he was seeing it as a very FINAL thing as the doctor advised a carehome because of aggression threatened when my mum didnt recognise my father. He has been guilting himself out over the fact he mentioned this since he saw the doctor. He wants to do all he can for the woman he loves, but cant do it without help now as his health is suffering. Where we are now is that for his own peace of mind my father has to try to help her she is most comfortable at home and we are hoping she will settle back into the house better than she is coping with the hospital environment, and hoping also that the extra help is going to be enough for my dad to cope himself. If not, then we will have to think again but he cant go from struggling to care for her with no help to an empty house without at least trying to see if it will work better. She now has medication for blood pressure, and also an anti depressant which has made her far less manic than she was becoming in the first few days of being in hospital. We fully believe that a fair assessment of my mother would happen in her most comfortable environment not in a hospital which she thinks is tesco with tesco staff keeping her in (she takes great joy in telling people she is never going to tesco again!). I am very pro active and have kept a game face on in order to keep spirits up for a positive outcome i.e. my mother at home with my dad with all the help they can get to cope with the situation obviously with constant assessment to make sure it is working. So the hospital now know our standpoint and what we want to happen and i have done all the logistical groundwork for support packages etc we are waiting for the hospital to setup a meeting (MDP) to see what happens next and put our case forward. Um...... Is there any more advice from anyone for the next things i should be looking into, Carers UK have met with us today and are sorting out a blue badge asap for my dad, and also are ready to go with lots of finance issues etc as soon as we have a go ahead from the hospital to take her home. So now where do i focus my actions..........? Any suggestions?