Hello again
It's been a while since I posted but I have been watching. This is my situation in a nutshell and I would be grateful if anyone out there could let me know whether this situation is unusual.
My mother (aged 83) has been diagnosed with vascular dementia. She has had a very confusing and distressing time for about 7 weeks whilst in hospital and an assessment centre. In view of her mental state I was advised she was unable to care for herself and she needed 24 hour residential care. I went along with this decision and found a very pleasant modern care home. She has now been there for 3 weeks and during this time she has improved tremendously - there is no sign of confusion at all and she already seems very settled and quite happy. I am informed that this is because she is in a controlled and stable environment where her main decision is what to wear that day. I am very concerned in view of this improvement in case I have made the wrong decision and should have allowed her to try to retain her independence by finding her sheltered accommodation. She is unable to return to her former home as this is a 2 storey house and she is very prone to falling.
Have I made the right decision?
I would welcome any advice you can give.
Isabel
It's been a while since I posted but I have been watching. This is my situation in a nutshell and I would be grateful if anyone out there could let me know whether this situation is unusual.
My mother (aged 83) has been diagnosed with vascular dementia. She has had a very confusing and distressing time for about 7 weeks whilst in hospital and an assessment centre. In view of her mental state I was advised she was unable to care for herself and she needed 24 hour residential care. I went along with this decision and found a very pleasant modern care home. She has now been there for 3 weeks and during this time she has improved tremendously - there is no sign of confusion at all and she already seems very settled and quite happy. I am informed that this is because she is in a controlled and stable environment where her main decision is what to wear that day. I am very concerned in view of this improvement in case I have made the wrong decision and should have allowed her to try to retain her independence by finding her sheltered accommodation. She is unable to return to her former home as this is a 2 storey house and she is very prone to falling.
Have I made the right decision?
I would welcome any advice you can give.
Isabel