Thank you Canary. I remember hearing something like this before and wondered about it. This sounds pathetic, but I have held back from saying that because i'm afraid she'll think I can't wait for her to die. I have thanked her for everything she has done for us & told her she taught us so much that we have learned how to manage in life & no matter what happens we will all be OK and she doesn't have to worry about us. perhaps I do need to be more specific.Tell your mum that she doesnt have to fight - that you know that she ready and it is perfectly OK for her to go.
She may be waiting for your permission.