Hi, I am new to the forum and would really welcome any advice on how to protect my Father and my family.
We first noticed a change in Dad's behaviour/personality in 2015, he became very grumpy, stopped seeing his friends and became generally disinterested in life, he was 75 at the time. In 2016 he started to make really silly financial decisions resulting in him spending vast amounts of money unnecessarily, he lost all empathy and started to say nasty and hurtful things to me, my husband and more upsettingly our daughter who was only 9 at the time. Up until then we had always been a very close loving family, Dad was my best friend and he absolutely adored his grandaughter. He finally went to the doctors in August 2016 and they put him on anti depressants (Sertraline and then Mirtazapine) he had a adverse reaction to these becoming far more aggressive and angry with a gated jawline. The doctors changed the anti-depressant and they did seem to have a bit of a calming effect on his anger, but he still goes from being angry/frustrated to not with it to almost normal and this pattern has continued to this day. The doctors then referred him to a geriatric psychiatrist in 2017 as he wasn't getting better. The psychiatrist suspected Lewy Body Dementia but she couldn't get Dad to have the DAT scan so the diagnoses has remained as depression. He managed to convince her that he was much better and back to his normal self in 2019 so he doesn't have to see her anymore.
Dad retired 23 years ago and I have always run our joint business and dealt with everything for him so he could enjoy his retirement. He put in place a power of attorney so I could do everything 24 years ago. He has now decided that he wants to revoke the POA as he doesn't want me to be able to "control his life" and he wants to be put on the deeds to our house as he believes that I will die before him and he doesn't want our daughter/his granddaughter to inherit, he wants to. He is also saying that he needs to update his will and we won't know who he has left things to until he has gone (we are his only family).
Having had no involvement in our business for 23 years he now wants to control everything and has told me I cannot make any decisions without him. He is making phone calls to companies I have used for years saying that they must not deal with me, only him. I have had several calls advising me that he has rang them in a angry state criticising them.
I have thought about going back to the doctors to try and get a proper diagnoses but again he would have to agree to see them, and he won't as he doesn't think there is anything wrong with him.
I need to protect him but I just don't know how, any advice greatly welcomed.
We first noticed a change in Dad's behaviour/personality in 2015, he became very grumpy, stopped seeing his friends and became generally disinterested in life, he was 75 at the time. In 2016 he started to make really silly financial decisions resulting in him spending vast amounts of money unnecessarily, he lost all empathy and started to say nasty and hurtful things to me, my husband and more upsettingly our daughter who was only 9 at the time. Up until then we had always been a very close loving family, Dad was my best friend and he absolutely adored his grandaughter. He finally went to the doctors in August 2016 and they put him on anti depressants (Sertraline and then Mirtazapine) he had a adverse reaction to these becoming far more aggressive and angry with a gated jawline. The doctors changed the anti-depressant and they did seem to have a bit of a calming effect on his anger, but he still goes from being angry/frustrated to not with it to almost normal and this pattern has continued to this day. The doctors then referred him to a geriatric psychiatrist in 2017 as he wasn't getting better. The psychiatrist suspected Lewy Body Dementia but she couldn't get Dad to have the DAT scan so the diagnoses has remained as depression. He managed to convince her that he was much better and back to his normal self in 2019 so he doesn't have to see her anymore.
Dad retired 23 years ago and I have always run our joint business and dealt with everything for him so he could enjoy his retirement. He put in place a power of attorney so I could do everything 24 years ago. He has now decided that he wants to revoke the POA as he doesn't want me to be able to "control his life" and he wants to be put on the deeds to our house as he believes that I will die before him and he doesn't want our daughter/his granddaughter to inherit, he wants to. He is also saying that he needs to update his will and we won't know who he has left things to until he has gone (we are his only family).
Having had no involvement in our business for 23 years he now wants to control everything and has told me I cannot make any decisions without him. He is making phone calls to companies I have used for years saying that they must not deal with me, only him. I have had several calls advising me that he has rang them in a angry state criticising them.
I have thought about going back to the doctors to try and get a proper diagnoses but again he would have to agree to see them, and he won't as he doesn't think there is anything wrong with him.
I need to protect him but I just don't know how, any advice greatly welcomed.