My Mum, 90 has been in a Care Home for exactly 4 years. My Dad had been her carer but died shortly after her admission there. When she first went into the Home, I feared the worst but soon realised she was actually in more of a middle stage of Alzheimer's as was still able to walk and talk and recognise me. She seemed to stabilise as she was cared for well and her anxiety lessened. During the 4 years in the Care Home she has declined, but quite slowly so that it has not been very noticeable. However, I have had a call to say to the SALT team has been to visit my mum as she was having trouble swallowing and was coughing a lot when eating and now has all food/drink thickened. It was at this point that the reality of her situation really hit me; she is now doubly incontinent, very frail, unable to utter more than a couple of words, hasn't recognised me for at least 2 years, she cannot stand up or walk and sleeps for most of the day and has recurring pressure sores. She is unable to feed herself and requires help for all her personal needs. She just has a far away look in her eyes and looks as if everything puzzles her. Most of these changes seem to have happened in the last 6 or 9 months. I dread to think what might happen next; how else might she deteriorate? On my last visit she was being fed by a carer and was resisting; she was wearing a bib and had a sippy cup and it looked like she had gone round the life cycle and ended up as a baby again, which was so hard to see and to be honest rather selfishly, I wish it was all over. I'm sorry for what seems like an aimless post and I know plenty of people on here are going through far worse, but it helps to write things down. If anyone has had a similar experience it would be really helpful to hear from you.
Many thanks.
Many thanks.