You know, I spend such a lot of time on TP, reading, asking questions, trying to offer support, advice and ideas to others, researching, asking for help and support for myself and receiving some great responses that I'm extremely grateful for.
Yet when I'm actually in mam's company, a lot of it goes out the window. My stomach knots up, my anxiety levels increase, I don't know how to react when she's being nasty, I can feel myself getting upset and often quite simply forget any advice that's been given to me (and if I do happen to remember, sadly it often has no effect).
I feel, sometimes, that I'm all mouth and no trousers, if you know what I mean.
The only time I feel sure of what to do is those times when she's upset. My instincts tell me to hug her, hold her tight, kiss her and reassure her, let her know she'll never be on her own. Whatever she needs to hear, I know to say it.
I find myself wishing that she'd be upset more often, rather than nasty or aggressive or excessively clingy towards dad (the latest phase), just so that I would know what to do. But I don't want my mam to be upset.
Not sure why I'm posting this, really. I don't think there are any answers. But it's good to get it out. Thanks for listening.
Yet when I'm actually in mam's company, a lot of it goes out the window. My stomach knots up, my anxiety levels increase, I don't know how to react when she's being nasty, I can feel myself getting upset and often quite simply forget any advice that's been given to me (and if I do happen to remember, sadly it often has no effect).
I feel, sometimes, that I'm all mouth and no trousers, if you know what I mean.
The only time I feel sure of what to do is those times when she's upset. My instincts tell me to hug her, hold her tight, kiss her and reassure her, let her know she'll never be on her own. Whatever she needs to hear, I know to say it.
I find myself wishing that she'd be upset more often, rather than nasty or aggressive or excessively clingy towards dad (the latest phase), just so that I would know what to do. But I don't want my mam to be upset.
Not sure why I'm posting this, really. I don't think there are any answers. But it's good to get it out. Thanks for listening.