Just caught up with your thread, tre. If it's any consolation, Mum went about a week without a bowel movement and the district nurse came and administered an enema.
I had a problem with her constipation and in the end found I had to give a sachet of Movicol every day. I think I gave her this from the day after the enema. Have you been advised to restart laxatives? We have had contact with Hospice at Home and this has continued for a year. She has had various "blips" but rallied each time. She has been very ill at times with infections, becoming unresponsive. I do hope your husband will rally too. Thinking of you and hope you get the carers as soon as possible.